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So... looks like I'm back on the No Writing bandwagon. Not that I really want to be. But starting a new business is a lot like having a baby. It requires constant care and feeding, disrupts your sleep patterns, can lead to higher costs and less income for the whole family.

I'm tired a lot these days. Being independent is tiring. Working the same place you live is tiring. And making a decision to live within your means, to refrain from traveling to places you can't afford, can lead to an outlook of one long grey, formless day after another.

But the reality is not really like that. The reality is that, as an independent, I get to make my own hours, I get to take a long walk in the sunshine on one of the first really warm days of the year if that's what I feel like doing. I get to code in my underwear if that's what I want to do (although I usually get dressed and put on my shoes -- it helps me focus).

In other news, the Massachusetts Supreme Court ruled that not allowing gays to marry is unconstitutional. Okay, this is not exactly news, since they made the ruling back in November. Nor is it now news that Massachusetts lawmakers came together to debate the merits of amending the state constitution specifically to prevent gays from being able to marry. Can you imagine? I always thought the whole point of a constitution was to guarantee people rights, not to take them away.

I went to the rally, because I'm my own boss and my boss said I could go. I came within about 5 feet of being able to set foot inside the actual statehouse. They closed the doors on most of us, said the statehouse was filled to capacity. But friends of mine who got inside before they stopped letting us in said there was plenty of room. So go figure.

I remember standing out front with the rest of the rabble, holding a sign and cheering when people honked in support of gay rights. One man had his van stopped in traffic, silent.

"Come on, give us a honk," said the boy standing next to me.

"I can't... I like women," he said.

"That's okay, I like women too," I replied.

But what I really wished I'd said is that you don't have to be gay to support gay rights.

And all of this hullabaloo is, of course, bittersweet, because no matter what happens, come May I won't be marrying another woman. Quick and I won't be marrying, ever. And Badger and I... well, I had a conversation with him a few months back, explaining how I feel about marriage. I'm certainly not getting married the heterosexual way while it excludes gay folks. How could I? It's just too close an issue for me.

Bisexuals: supporting your right to marry whom you please since the dawn of time.